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Bradtastical Change, a rambling.

Change starts with a belief, followed by action.

“Change” is a vast, deep and important topic for me and within my circles, so it’s something that I’ll come back to at some point. Probably after my re-release (anyone seen Gilmore Girls? If so, think Rory’s “Coming Out” ball, fan dance and black tie, minus the grandparent drama). It’s something that I’ve stated again and again, it’s been quoted by friends and exists on at least one wall, ink on index card, taped to remain at the forefront of conscious thought. I’m proud and flattered to make such an impact on others…

I’d also really like them to know that they help to shape me and make me who I am. I wouldn’t be Bradtastic without the people around me; my family, my friends and the loves of my life. Women are wonderful… beautiful, intelligent women are worth everything. [Women>Men—simple math]

It’s that time of year; lights a’plenty, the night comes early, family comes together to stress out over simple things. All of TV’s primetime dramas are on-hold until next year… Netflix is golden. The Internet has been a true gift, although I must say, I’ve been really, really getting grand amounts of pleasure from my Amazon Kindle. (I guess much of that credit could be given to the reading material itself, but somehow, the Kindle makes the reading experience that much better.)

I’ve been thinking about change… for myself, my life, my work… everything. I want to share more of myself and my thoughts, my life and my theories on interactions. I want to share the new, great things in my life—what I love—what keeps me going. I’ve been looking at new blogging/journaling/writing/publishing platforms for some time now—including forums, wikis and CMS’ like Drupal and Joomla—finally settling on two platforms, TypePad and Squarespace. (I’ve shared some of this at my Vox and microblogs.) I’m testing both right now… and I’m impressed so far.

Many thanks to @mzampino and @marinesetwas (Twitter/Social Network people, though the links go to their blogs) for their input, as well as that cool-dude Warner Crocker—who’d bestowed upon me that Ink Blot Award for Bradtastic Ink aka bradchin.com—for his thoughts on the TypePad platform. (Perhaps it’s something that’ll work for my inkblog… I’m really not that happy with my current WP setup there. Thoughts?)

So I’m posting this as a precursor to change—impending, inevitable change—insofar as any of this can apply to your life and those around you, I hope it inspires something… further, if anyone has any thoughts or suggestions for me, by all means (literally) please, do share. ‘Tis the season… and I say, forget about “New Years’ Resolutions,” anytime—any day—is grand-enough to declare a resolution. We should be take advantage of the time that we have and improve and change throughout the year.

Lastly, I hope that the best and strongest of us can cure boredom. Youtube doesn’t count—I really wish that that site was never created… what a step-back for mankind. (Just had a great conversation about chaos magic, life and productivity with CKD—YouTube’s negative effect on workplace productivity certainly came up.) If you spend any part of your day “being bored,” you should join me at Vox. I’ll introduce you to some people… if you’re cool enough. *smile*

 

Until next time… enjoy the ‘eve!

A Brad Chin “Quickie”

bradtastic brad chin at new york pizza

I HAVE A LONG, DEEP POST PLANNED, but I realized that I haven’t updated in a while. The birthday-and-post-catastrophe is over, things have been getting better. The weather is much nicer… we had our “first rain” and hopefully there’s more to come. Either way, I appreciate the gray-days—much easier on my eyes.

I’ve updated my Amazon Wish List; I’ve been told in the past that I’m “difficult to shop for,” perhaps that was the case, not-so-much anymore. On the list are items that I really want, but don’t end up buying for myself… at least not for a while. Worthy of special note: Andy (MagicByAndrew) gifted me a Soul Calibur 4 Arcade Stick and recently, the ASUS Eee PC 1000H (a phenomenal machine)… I’m also now a proud Kindle owner thanks to Kristen… (Kristen: The Kindle totally rocks, thank you so much!)

Sometimes I prefer gifts to cash for consulting and the life-coaching work that I do, some people can’t resist saying “I love you” in a special way and others end up at my Wishlist to get gift ideas for others or to take a look at “what’s hot.” There are items ranging from expensive-almost-ridiculous to under-$10. What my associates and I offer others (many, many men) is happiness, fulfillment and perhaps for the first time, successful relationships with others… and I ask, “what’s happiness worth to ya?” [Note: I really like Moleskine Notebooks, (visit the Moleskine Store) I fill'em up quickly. I think everyone should carry one. Also available at B&N, also makes a great gift!]


MY PLAN WAS TO RELEASE MY FIRST BOOK around the premier of VH1’s The Pickup Artist season two, however, as time goes on, I learn more, I add more… I’d like my work to feel “more complete.” The writing hasn’t stopped, however, far from it. During the process of self-discovery and journaling, I started to realize that I have within-me a fiction—my first fiction—I never thought that that would be my type of tale-telling. Without touting my own work too much, from what I can tell, it’s psychologically-thrilling and twisting—it’s an erotica dealing with power-exchange—instead of focusing on the pornographic aspects of love and writing a smut, I’m focussing on the inner-workings of human nature and behavior… with kinks.

I know that it’s not for everyone, but seriously… what is? I hope I can shock some people, open the minds of the closed and assure the closed-in and guarded that it’s okay to be who you are. I’m still fulfilling my original goals of crafting and consolidating a collection of my work called “The Art of Impression.” I’m also slowly releasing some of my new inkwork (Note: it’ll probably appear at my inkblog first, Bradtastic Inkblog aka bradchin.com) and I’m also putting together some new vectors… who knows, maybe I will have that limited addition t-shirt run that I’ve wanted!

Lastly, happy voting tomorrow. My perspectives on politics and society have been  called abhorrent in the Bay Area, particularly SF… my friends, family and associates understand, however. It’s okay to want different things, and it’s definitely okay to voice those opinions. Whatever happens this election/voting period, I’m sure that my life will still rock and I hope that yours does, too. We can either blame each other, society and the rest of the world for our problems, or we can say “the buck stops here,” and make life better.

Seriously… what’s happiness worth to ya?!

Until next time…

Openness… for all?

I’m not just open (these days…), I’m really open, about everything. My private life can play out on public forum; deep, dark secrets? Not the same thing for most others and I…

… and that’s okay. I’m trying to, or doing my small-part to, change society into a freer, more equal-open, relationship-oriented “real values” place. Clearly something other than this, here… what’s yours-mine-ours.

I’ll talk about the dangerous stuff, so you won’t have to. I’ll break the new ground, trailblaze so others can pave the way~behind me, forward-march-motion to a better future. The talks about multiple partners, polyamory, fetishes and kinks will be of the mildest. You mightn’t even want the wildest.

 

Small steps, people… left, left, left, right, left… left, left…